Here's something I've been thinking bout recently -and if anyone's out there and wouldn't mind sharing their thoughts it'd be much appreciated!
ok, so
- I've been thinking bout guys and girls and the signals we do and don't send each other. So far my conclusions are that girls are really confusing and I don't understand them so i'm not at all surprised that guys don't either!! : ) heh!
From my experience as a girl, I find that if I like someone, i generally try not to let it show - either to the guy or to anyone else - I think that's probly linked with a fear or rejection or something. I don't know how successful I am at it or not.
A response i've had from a guy is that guys are similar.
This makes life confusing cos then you don't actually know if someone likes you or not and you end up not showing someone if you like them or not! Confusing!! : )
So, girls what do you do to show a guy you like them??
And guys what do you do to show a girl you like them?
And is there anything you look for or notice in particular bout the opposite sex that makes you think they might like you?? : )
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Interesting...
Are you asking so you can further hide your likings? Or so you can work out where guys are at?
I don't have a conscious set of behaviours that I follow, instead my behaviour naturally changes as a result of the affection. This usually means more time and attention (time spent thinking about them, time spent with them, attention paid to them while with them, attention paid to what they think about things).
However, these behaviours can also be the result of other things. I may just think the person is cool, without actually liking them, and as a result, behave in a similar way.
I've also noticed that often I try to cover these behaviours up. And other times I haven't. And other times I've had crazy theories, and so done crazy things. So I've come to the conclusion that the pattern of behaviour I've mentioned may be a good guideline, but chances are everyone is going to completely different ways of going about it, so you've just got to use your judgement, and take things in a case by case basis. Intuitions I guess?
The other thing I've decided is that if the other party doesn't like you, it isn't the end of the world. It doesn't necessarily mean nothing is going to happen, as they may change their minds later on in the relationship. So I find it's better to focus on whether the relationship is / would be a good, rather than whether we have mutual liking. And if it looks like a good relationship, then you suggest it to them. That way you deal with the objective, and don't have to spend heaps and heaps of time trying to work out what they feel. It's simplier to ask.
Right. I think that's a long enough rant. Hopefully it helps.
Hey
I think I was asking for both reasons - and also from the point of a guy - ie, where's a girl at?
I think I like what you said bout your behaviour - and time/attn spent on ppl.
Thanks
Tho I still think we're a confusing bunch and i think the fact that any 2 ppl can decide to like eachother at the same time and makeit work is really quite incredible! : )
We're wonderful creatures really!
True Nathan... I mean you wouldn't want feelings getting in the way of a relationship...
Yeah!
We need to be completely logical and ignore all feelings in all human interactions :)
Nah, what I was saying is that mutual liking shouldn't be the sole basis for a relationship. There has to be a bit more than that. And because it's hard to know 100% if someone likes you or not, it can be good to concentrate on other things as well. That said, if someone is sending strong signals that they don't like you, better keep away.
tell you what Hannah life's too short to hide your feelings if you like someone don't be afraid of rejection 'cos otherwise if you wait they'll probably find someone else and you'll regret it even more i reckon. one lesson i had to learn the hard way, that if you're attracted to someone there's no such thing as true love and someone else who's more of a jock and more of an asshole will probably be wanting to screw her
interesting post hannah! i believe we've had this discussion before....
When i like someone i read into everything they do and try to analyse things. it is silly but i do it anyway. I especially analyse when they talk to other girls. I think other girls do this too. i don't really know what guys do...
yep.
guys rock thats what guys do
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